Many people look at my marriage and think we have a fairytale relationship. We laugh all the time, eat breakfast together every day, take long cellphone-free walks, and our biggest fight is over who gets the last bite (he insist me, and I insist him.) Yeah...it's pretty perfect. Sometimes I cry just thinking about how much I love this man. It's truly overwhelming.
But would you believe that I almost BLEW this?? Yep. You would think that the SECOND you meet someone as WONDERFUL as my husband that you would just drop everything and marry him, right?? Well, it didn't happen quite that way...
See....I actually met my husband about a year and a half before we started dating. I was in line to buy a smoothie for me and my friend, when this guy (Johnatan, my husband) struck up a conversation with me. I thought he was nice, but I was in a relationship at the time, and made that very clear to him. Through our conversation, we realized that he actually knew my friend (the one I was getting a smoothie for). He sweetly insisted on buying our smoothies. It was a small gesture, but it left a lasting impression. I told my friend about him, and as it turns out - she had actually been telling me about this guy for a few weeks, saying that we would be "perfect for each other!" Again, I dismissed this match-making excitement as I was in a relationship.
Without going into too much detail, the relationship I was in was not a healthy one. Try as we might, it was just a square-peg/round-hole situation. But neither of us knew any better. "Relationships take work," people say, and I just assumed that the difficulties we had were "normal." Both of us knew that something just "wasn't right," but there was 4 years of history and comfort, so walking away didn't seem like an option. But as with everything, you get to a point where you can't ignore the facts. And the fact was...we were better off apart.
Even though the answer was clear, the transition was still difficult. A year and a half of on and off, off and on, on and off, until....flatline. I remember lying in bed one night thinking to myself, "I'm 33 years old...single...with a cat...it's going to be slim-pickings for me." Meanwhile, during this entire year and half of struggle, Johnatan and I had hung out several times in group settings. My friend kept trying to persuade me that "we were made for each other," but for one, I wasn't ready, and, truthfully, I found him to be quite boring. Ha! I would be tossing out some of my best comedic material, and I would MAYBE get a nose-laugh out of him, and I would think "this guy does NOT get me." On top of it all, he's Latin, so I ASSUMED he wanted a Latin woman, or at a minimum, not some Southern, pageant-girl has-been whose got a D in Spanish. I mean...I'm on tonight, but my hips DO lie! (If I knew then, what I know now, I probably would have actually paid attention to Señora Santiago in high school.)
Then, one day, while having a friendly beverage together, Johnatan dropped a bomb on our budding friendship by saying these exact words, "Carla, I would like to take you out on a date." Say what??! I mean, was I even attracted to him?? Yes, yes I was. But did I actually enjoy spending time with him?? Well, yes...yes I did. So why was I sweating and FREAKING out when he asked me out?? I really didn't have any reason to say "no" except for my fear of it not working. So I said OK.
And the rest is history....NOT!!! On the day of our first date, I let my fear get the best of me, and I cancelled....(wait for it)....over a TEXT message. I'm mature like that. I made plans with a girlfriend to "get me out of the date." But, as fate would have it, my girlfriend had to cancel on me due to a family emergency. So, out of a guilty conscience, I texted (haha!) Johnatan again and proceeded with the date. Annnnnnd - we had so much fun!! The chemistry was so thick you could cut it with a knife! We talked for hours and laughed all night long. That "boring" guy was now intriguing!
And the rest is history....NOT!!! Ha! After about a month into our blissful relationship, I freaked out AGAIN and backed out of the relationship. It was "too perfect." He was "too nice." (Why are girls so stupid sometimes?!). But, being the perfect guy that he is, he didn't push it or force the issue, he just gave me the space I needed. Through that, I saw how crazy I would have been to let something this special slip out of my hands. Johnatan was a blessing - a refreshing change from any relationship I had ever experienced, and in those differences, I almost dismissed him as a real possibility. Thankfully, I didn't let my stupidity and my fear get the best of me this time.
And the rest is history! For real this time. :) We have been married for 10 months now, and I can honestly say they have been the best 10 months of my LIFE! I learn something new about him every day, and in turn, I learn something new about myself. And to think...I almost MISSED OUT on this! I thank God every day for His provisions over my life and for blessing me with this wonderful man. He is truly a gift!
All of this to say...sometimes I feel like people look at my business like I looked at Johnatan. "Too good to be true," "too unconventional to be real," "too fun to be serious." And, just like I almost did, some of you will likely miss out on your fairytale career simply out of fear and disbelief. You might be unhappy in your current situation, but there's so much "history," and you think that it's "normal" to be stressed all the time and limited in your freedoms. I challenge you - take the time to "date" Rodan + Fields, get to know them, their products, their story. Don't let your fear misguide you. You might just discover that Rodan + Fields is the refreshing change you've been needing and the very thing that you have been looking for. It was for me, and my drive for success has never been greater. I would be honored to tell you my story and invite you on this incredible journey with me.
Got 15 mins? Dial in to the number below and listen anonymously to see if this could be the right thing for you. You might just find your happily ever after....
712-432-1085
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Then, one day, while having a friendly beverage together, Johnatan dropped a bomb on our budding friendship by saying these exact words, "Carla, I would like to take you out on a date." Say what??! I mean, was I even attracted to him?? Yes, yes I was. But did I actually enjoy spending time with him?? Well, yes...yes I did. So why was I sweating and FREAKING out when he asked me out?? I really didn't have any reason to say "no" except for my fear of it not working. So I said OK.
And the rest is history....NOT!!! On the day of our first date, I let my fear get the best of me, and I cancelled....(wait for it)....over a TEXT message. I'm mature like that. I made plans with a girlfriend to "get me out of the date." But, as fate would have it, my girlfriend had to cancel on me due to a family emergency. So, out of a guilty conscience, I texted (haha!) Johnatan again and proceeded with the date. Annnnnnd - we had so much fun!! The chemistry was so thick you could cut it with a knife! We talked for hours and laughed all night long. That "boring" guy was now intriguing!
And the rest is history....NOT!!! Ha! After about a month into our blissful relationship, I freaked out AGAIN and backed out of the relationship. It was "too perfect." He was "too nice." (Why are girls so stupid sometimes?!). But, being the perfect guy that he is, he didn't push it or force the issue, he just gave me the space I needed. Through that, I saw how crazy I would have been to let something this special slip out of my hands. Johnatan was a blessing - a refreshing change from any relationship I had ever experienced, and in those differences, I almost dismissed him as a real possibility. Thankfully, I didn't let my stupidity and my fear get the best of me this time.
And the rest is history! For real this time. :) We have been married for 10 months now, and I can honestly say they have been the best 10 months of my LIFE! I learn something new about him every day, and in turn, I learn something new about myself. And to think...I almost MISSED OUT on this! I thank God every day for His provisions over my life and for blessing me with this wonderful man. He is truly a gift!
All of this to say...sometimes I feel like people look at my business like I looked at Johnatan. "Too good to be true," "too unconventional to be real," "too fun to be serious." And, just like I almost did, some of you will likely miss out on your fairytale career simply out of fear and disbelief. You might be unhappy in your current situation, but there's so much "history," and you think that it's "normal" to be stressed all the time and limited in your freedoms. I challenge you - take the time to "date" Rodan + Fields, get to know them, their products, their story. Don't let your fear misguide you. You might just discover that Rodan + Fields is the refreshing change you've been needing and the very thing that you have been looking for. It was for me, and my drive for success has never been greater. I would be honored to tell you my story and invite you on this incredible journey with me.
Got 15 mins? Dial in to the number below and listen anonymously to see if this could be the right thing for you. You might just find your happily ever after....
712-432-1085
102236#
